So the thing on my mind the most today is the topic of love – – and what exactly is real love? I think this is largely owing to the fact that I had a great afternoon & evening with my special boyfriend today 🙂 But that is besides the point 🙂
Okay, so prior to the relationship I am currently in I had some very average relationships and one very, very lousy one filled with heart ache and loads of emotional abuse. While I don’t claim to be a love expert I do feel that I have some insights I would like to share.
I have a theory about love. Oftentimes people will start dating because boy meets girl, they attracted to one another, they get along fairly well and the natural progression of starting to date happens. Time marches on and you get along well still, you have fun, you have the odd fight but it’s not violent stuff. Your partner never does anything shocking enough (like cheating or lying) to make you break up with them. You, at some stage, get to a point where you’ve been together a long time and your friends and family start asking where is the relationship headed? When are you going to get engaged? Maybe the guy feels pressure, and eventually the two of you get engaged and married – – because it was the natural progression for the relationship. Seems fine, right? Your partner is nice. They have their flaws, but who doesn’t? And hey – – maybe you could do a lot worse. It’s fine, is it not?
I disagree!! I feel a relationship like this is why there are such high divorce rates nowadays. People just accept average relationships. So many people are afraid of being alone and afraid of wishing for more, so they accept a very average relationship where technically there is nothing wrong with the other person. But nothing wrong doesn’t imply that for you they are right!
I believe in a 99% match. No two people will be a 100% match – – we are all individuals. You can get a 50% match, a 60% match, maybe a 80% match and things will be fine. You’ll be alright together. But I believe a match like this will only ever lead to mediocre love. The 99% match is the person who doesn’t necessarily complete you, but rather they complement you. They allow you to be yourself. They understand you more than any other person. They don’t tolerant you – – they treasure you. Being with them makes you the best version of yourself because they encourage you to be just that. They do no smother you nor control you, and they support your dreams and your passions. They stick by you even through the not so glamorous times like messy flus, or depression, or sobbing fits. They enrich your life in a way that no other person can. With them, you never feel alone. With them you don’t experience just happiness on the surface, but rather a deep seeded level of contentment. The world is better because of this other person and you know for the rest of your days – – they’ll love and support you.The truly mundane can become interesting with them and there is an element that can only be described as magic in your life. For the rest of your life you know that they’ll notice all the tiny details in your day-to-day life that to outsiders may be unimportant but to them is everything.
This being said – – I’m truly blessed and fortunate that I have my 99% match, but – – for anybody who may not – – in my humble opinion, holding out for the 99% match, real L.O.V.E is well worth the wait! 🙂